As Baby Champuru (17mo) improves her communication skills, life gets more interesting. I discovered recently that Baby Champuru considers me her possession.
If Hubby is tenderly holding my hand, massaging my shoulders, or even touching me in the most platonic way, Baby Champuru screams, “MINE!” and waves him off. If he doesn’t heed her warning, she will attempt to forcibly separate us by pushing Hubby away from me. We may be sitting on the couch and if I’m leaning my head on Hubby’s shoulder, Baby Champuru will run from across the room and set Hubby straight. “Mommy belongs to ME. Don’t touch my stuff!”
Is this normal — or do I need to be concerned?
LOL — I think that may be normal. TLE is similiar with The Hubs and me. In the past, she used to cry if she saw The Hubs cuddling me and when she became more mobile, she would physically separate us. Now, she’s much more agreeable to Daddy but when she sees us hugging, she insists on either making it a group hug or pushing away whoever she doesn’t want before glomping onto the one she does.
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Definitely normal, and don’t expect it to be long before she decides Daddy is the preferred parent and you get shoved aside! Most of my friends’ daughters were that way by age 2.
I think it was just before his 4th birthday that T finally stopped shoving V away, though he never had any issues with C when he was born, thankfully. C still very much does it, and shoves T aside if I’m cuddling him too.
We’ve never made a big deal out of it- sometimes we try to make it silly, like both of us hug/smoosh the baby in a sandwich. They just need the reassurance that, no matter how independent they’re getting, we’re there for them the moment we’re needed.
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I wouldn’t worry unless she continues for several months. You can also start telling her about Mommy and Daddy love each other. Family hugs. Whatever might ease some meaning into the situation.
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My daughter did the same thing for a while. They do grow out of it
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