Apr 04 2006
Up Where?
People who want kids can’t have them. People who don’t want kids get pregnant and have abortions. People who shouldn’t have kids have too many.
Oh, the irony of life.
I started the day with a visit to my ob/gyn, which is really never a pleasant experience to begin with but with all this talk about infertility, hormone therapy, and in vitro, these appointments seem to be all the more dreadful. Noting my chart, the doc asked me if I was still intending to see the infertility specialist about the possibility of attempting in vitro fertilization.
I mentioned that I had just started a new job and the transition has been quite stressful, so we were intending to wait 6-12 months before starting the process. She looked up from the chart and gave me the hint of a disapproving frown and said, “Well, you know… you are getting up there, so you should really start sooner rather than later.” She then proceeded to jot notes in the chart and explain how she’ll pursue putting me on the Depo Lupron injection schedule and that we should make an appointment with the infertility specialist to coincide with the completion of the 6 month hormone therapy regimen.
Almost as an afterthought, she mentioned that I could look at my calendar and start the monthly Depo Lupron injections a couple months from now and just adjust the schedule accordingly — but stressed that we shouldn’t wait too long.
After all, I am “getting up there.”
I asked her if my endometriosis would make it impossible to conceive without doing in vitro. She studied my chart for a moment and said, “Well, not impossible… but I think you could use some help.”
I talked it over with Hubby and we still may wait a few months and just try the old fashioned way, making a concerted effort to conceive. Now wouldn’t that simply be a miracle: despite the doubts of my ob/gyn, we get pregnant without “help.”
Honestly though, we do need help. God’s help. If it’s in His plan, it’ll happen with or without drugs, specialists and costly procedures. I just have to learn how to accept the outcome graciously — whatever it may be.
A 30-something Christian girl, blissfully wedded to her perfect match (the yang to her yin) of 14 years. Living life in Hawaii, less than 5 miles from her hometown, a slave to her mortgage payment, but seeking balance in her pursuit of family, faith, recreation, and rest.
Sis I believe if it’s god’s plan for you to have a child/children he will make it happen…I understand how you feel about having a hard time getting pregnant I tried in the pass, and didn’t work…they told me later if I was serious about having a child I would have to go through the pill, and so on…it’s all in gods hands…I also think that girls who don’t want a child, and end up getting an abortion should stop spreading there legs and use protection…and people like us who wants to have children give us that wish to let it happen…hugs love ya sis!
errr their legs…LOL
*hugs* I am so very sorry. I hope you are doing as much research as you can- in my experience, doctors don’t know everything and often are behind on the latest studies and treatments. http://www.inciid.org is a good resource.
In my circle of friends, I know one IVF baby; one “miracle” baby who arrived after doctors said it could only happen with IVF; one IUI baby (after 5 years of trying), whose sibling (another miracle baby) is due this fall; and one little girl waiting in Vietnam to meet her parents.
If you learn you need a surrogate, I would be glad to volunteer. Of course, I can’t guarantee the tenant would stay through the lease period, but I would try!
Remember that, without any trace of irony, good people are rewarded with good things. Keep your faith in what you want.
Hey Donna…I hear you loud and clear about the ironies of life. All I can think about that is, despite those who do not learn from their mistakes there is learning for others to be had.
I think you are making a great decision in giving nature a chance before getting additional help. Your doc wasn’t able to say for sure if it was impossible - and anyway, docs aren’t always right. The body works in mysterious ways…
At the end of the day, do what makes you and hubby feel best. Only when the two of you are happy, will a baby be happy as well.
:o)Hang in there!
good luck in this, donna! to
you and hubby both.
Hi Donna,
Do keep you in prayers.
donna, i know everything will turn out for you & hubby and that you will be blessed either way. hang in there and take time smell the roses too along the way.
don’t let this overwhelm you. i know He has big plans for you two.
*hugs* I also feel the ironies of life too, it will be at least a year after my transplant before I can even try, and I’m also “getting up there” myself.
Thinking of you and praying for you and your hubby.
Thanks, everyone, for your comments and prayers. We’ll see how nature takes its course — and at the very least, it will be an interesting endeavor to document. *hugs to you all*